How to Support a Family Member Who Has Had a Stroke

Supporting a family member who has had a stroke can be overwhelming and challenging, both emotionally, practically, and energetically.

Ironically your family member is likely feeling these same emotions.

We all so desperately want to help. Here are some ways to provide effective support.

Understand Stroke and Its Effects

Start by learning about the type of stroke he/she experienced. (ischemic, hemorrhagic, or TIA). Knowing the medical details helps you understand their recovery needs.

Then understand the physical, cognitive, and emotional changes that he/she may be dealing with. Stroke can affect mobility, speech, cognition, and emotions. Be aware of these challenges so you can adapt your support accordingly.

When you understand the impact you are signaling to the survivor that you are on their team.

Encourage Rehabilitation and Recovery

Support therapy sessions: Whether it's physical, occupational, or speech therapy, encourage your family member to attend and engage with their rehab. Attend appointments if possible to understand their progress and challenges.

Promote a positive mindset: Recovery can be slow, and it's important to help them stay motivated. Remind them of their small wins and encourage a growth mindset, focusing on continuous improvement rather than perfection. “Practice makes better.”

Create a Safe and Comfortable Environment

Adapt the home: Depending on mobility changes, you might need to make modifications, such as adding grab bars in the bathroom, using ramps, or ensuring clutter-free spaces to avoid falls. Your medical team can help advise you on what will be needed.

Help with tasks that may be difficult, such as bathing, dressing, and eating. However, encourage them to be as independent as possible.

We don’t want to do things for them unless they ask. Your family member is still an adult, but they’ve had a brain injury so things will be harder at first.

Be Patient and Compassionate

Offer emotional support: Stroke survivors often experience frustration, depression, anxiety & overwhelm. Be very patient, listen to their concerns, and offer emotional reassurance.

Avoid pushing too hard: While it's important to encourage progress, avoid pushing them beyond their limits, which can lead to frustration.The way they are now is just a snapshot in time. It doesn't define the family member. Remember that he or she will improve with steady work.

Help With Communication

Be mindful of speech difficulties: If they have aphasia or trouble communicating, be very patient and allow extra time for them to speak or express themselves. You may need to use simple language or alternative communication methods.

Try not to finish their sentences or thoughts “for them” as it will lead to further frustration from your loved one.

Use non-verbal cues: Body language, gestures, or writing may help them express themselves better in the early stages of recovery.

Offer Practical Help

Manage medications and medical appointments: Help keep track of their medication schedule and attend follow-up appointments to stay informed about their health.

Help with financial and legal matters: Stroke can impact their ability to work or manage finances, so assist with paperwork, insurance claims, or accessing disability resources if needed.

If they are home, make some healthy meals for him/her. It will be very appreciated since even the prep can seem overwhelming.

Promote a Healthy Lifestyle

Encourage healthy habits: Support a stroke-friendly diet, regular physical activity (approved by their healthcare provider), and stress management to prevent another stroke.

Monitor their health: Help them keep an eye on risk factors like high blood pressure, cholesterol, and diabetes.

Take Care of Yourself

Prevent caregiver burnout: Supporting a stroke survivor can be quite demanding, so it's essential to take breaks and seek help from others when needed.

Don't hesitate to access support groups or professional counseling for yourself. You’ll learn about tips and resources from others in the group which could prove to be invaluable for you & your family member.

Seek Professional Support

Involve health professionals: Stay connected with healthcare providers, such as stroke specialists, physiotherapists, and social workers, to ensure that your family member is receiving comprehensive care.

Join a support group: There are many support groups for both stroke survivors and caregivers where you can share experiences and learn from others. I cannot stress enough the value of these groups.

Offering love, patience, and support while also encouraging independence will help your family member navigate this new chapter of life.

Your family member will appreciate your support and it will prove to be invaluable for him/her in establishing a healthy, independent mindset. Your support can play a massive role in launching a healthy recovery.